I think that taking time, GALing and self work helps to get our emotions in check and allows us to recover from the shock and awe of BD. As we adapt to life as a "single" person we can see that it's not so bad and as we gain confidence we become more comfortable with life in the territory outside of married couple.
Your W may be done or she may only think she's done, who knows. Most likely she doesn't either because she's still there. The important question is, are you done? You have the power here. Sometimes it's hard to feel that, but you do.
Yes, H and I are working at being together more but I truly don't know what that will look like. I was happy with my life, really, and adding someone into the mix fulltime gives me a bit of concern. But I'm just taking it a day at a time.
I think you're detaching and it may feel weird, almost disloyal. Don't make a job of staying married, make a job of living life and see what happens.
Sounds like your sons are fine young men.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
