This is the stuff of heroes. You are a hero. Start believing it.
I know how hard this is. I know what it's like when every fiber of your being wants to reach out and make things right. We look at this situation and see how simple it appears to put things right. It's simple right? We just reach out, console, comfort, maybe slap them back into line a bit and it all falls back into place.
WRONG!!! Take it from me. You have to let go of the old marriage. Give it an honorable burial. Put it to rest gently in a loving way. Put it safely away in your heart.
Now, let's look to new. Imagine your H died. For now, he is gone. What does Thanksgiving look like?
You know, this never occurred to me before. But, what about journaling everything you would say to him. Those moment when you want to reach out? Journal those thoughts and feelings. Set them aside. Someday, if you H comes back to the world of the living, you can share your thoughts. He will know, then, how much you missed and loved him. Right now, though, he's a zombie.
Imagine trying to tell a zombie how much you love him. Would that make him NOT a zombie?
I'm sorry for your loss. I really am. But, this is the stuff of heroes and you ARE ONE!!
Much Love,
Heather
"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man
“Focus on what you can do, then do it with all your heart.” Lois Wilson
