Hey there cc, sorry to hear about your situation. Welcome to the best place for help/support in a very difficult situation.
Start by catching up on the link above and reading DR if you can get a hold of a copy. The information seems counter- intuitive at times but will helpful....
Keep posting and sharing your story. Others will join in and comments. The support on this board is unbelievable.......
Me-48,W-51 M-22,T-24 S- 18,16,9 Feb-Jul '11 Away from Home, after initial B date Aug-Dec '11 Back at Home on couch Dec '11-now Same bedroom, room mates only Dec '14 W files initial D paperwork