Hey cc, moderation means that your posts won't show up for a while. If you post a lot you will get off moderation quickly.

Check out his page if you haven't already. http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2250607#Post2250607

These rules in the link above make for a pretty good set of guidelines as you get started.

Me-45
W-44
T-7 years
M-3 years (4th anniversary July 13, but we're separated)
Kids from previous relationships (s14 d16 mine, s23, s24 hers)