Afraid I have waited too long

[nit84]

AS, Thank you for your answers. I think I have to slow down and explain myself better. I have read Sandi2's rules. I am trying my best to follow them. Most of the passages you pulled were from a discussion the W and I had about three weeks ago. She initiated the talk when I stopped over at the house to do some repair work. I got the sense that she is confused and needed to vent. I listened to her intently and empathized with her. She told me how hard it must be to be in my position and if it were her she wouldn't know what to do. I told her it is tough no doubt but I have accepted the situation the way it is right now and I am working on some stuff for me. She asked me to move out at the beginning of the S I agreed that she and our dog would be more comfortable. Our dog was in poor health at the time and moving her would have sped up the ultimate ending. Back in August I told my wife of my desire to move back home then. she wasn't happy and I said well after our dog passes there is no reason why I shouldn't be able to because that the whole why she remained in the house to begin with. She does not like when I say I am going to do some improvements on the house after the dog passes which happened about 6 weeks ago. she says I should have done them years ago when she asked but forgets that we agreed that it would be better to wait until after the dog passed. She says now that I am only doing it to throw it in her face and to force her to leave the house. this is not true. I am proud of our house and so is she we have made it a home for twelve years and now it is time to put some care back into it. All of this work was planned well before the S so I am not sure why this is upsetting her. I will try to give more background when I get off moderation.