Willbwell, I would not bring any conversation about D or temporary order. You are right on that. I know it is always difficult around the holidays. Did he give any indication what he is doing for Thanksgiving? If not, I would wait for another week to decide whether to invite him or not. What are you doing for Thanksgiving? What do your kids want to do?
M:50 H:52 S28 (my S from previous marriage) M:17 + 3 BD: 06/12 S: 06/12 - H works in another state