We have 50/50 custody and it's just recently that D13 has been bringing this stuff up about OW. I had her use body wash and she wanted to use soap when she showered yesterday so she wouldn't have to take another shower over there right away. Plus I told her to keep me updated on this stuff so we can work it out to try to prevent D13 from having to take 2 showers in an afternoon or whatever crazy thing. Plus, what I didn't say, is I also want to keep an eye on the sitch. I generally plan to stay out of it though, figuring this is b/w D13 and OW and X.
I tend not to address parenting concerns with X, just about safety or when he wasn't giving her meds, and that kind of thing. I just kind of think OW is crazy; she makes D13 wear a bra 24/7 at X's house, that kind of control behavior; makes me sad for them, but what X chooses, and I think it will turn off the kids at some point, esp when they get married and she's there full-time (I think her 3 prior marriages are kind of a red flag too).
s19 is still going there at the same time as J; they both still like being together; the consistency of that I think, but X doesn't have good internet or something so he spends a little more time here to do his homework (college stuff is all on internet now so X really should upgrade). I am just getting child support for J, but have perm alimony, so I'm good.
