I don't really understand why your H would be upset about you being on a DB forum? Sounds like he's just looking for excuses to push you away.
He was upset because he couldn't believe I was putting all our information up on the internet for strangers to read. It infuriated him. Not sure if it was the policeman in him or what. But I decided to stay clear for a while.
Originally Posted By: AnotherStander
In Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, Covey makes the case that love is a verb, not a noun. It's something that you do, not something that just "is". Your H has the choice to love you as much or as little as he wants. But if he chooses not to love you, that's a choice that he made, not something he can blame on external elements.
I'm not sure I completely understand this and how to communicate this to my H.
Originally Posted By: MrBond
Why are you afraid of what your H might think? If he gets angry about you reading this site, just tell him it helps you to learn how to make your M better. Period. No other explanation is needed and he can read it if he wants to.
Stop walking on eggshells around him.
I did. I told him it's just looking for advice and to help others also that go through marriage problems. He was annoyed and doesn't want me talking about my life on the internet like this. Especially with strangers. I told him to read it and he wanted no part. I honestly don't think I will ever stop walking on eggshells until our marriage is either over or 100%stable. Right now I'm petrified.
M: 31 H: 29 Married: 6 yrs Children : 7yr old, 5yr old, 2yr old
Separated: Sept. '09 Moved Back In for wrong reasons: Nov. 30, 09 Recomitted to our Marriage: Jan. 25, 10 Threatening to leave again: July,14
