I always tell people not to put a timeline on this as their really isn't one. You could say you have one but it really takes as along as it's going to take.
And I don't mean for your H to come around.
I mean for you to walk this journey.
If
You want to.
Your H is very confused and is not going to get better until he decides to get help. He will keep thinking he has a the best plan for himself like get rid of all his stressors... Or become a unicorn farmer.
It doesn't matter. It won't work until he gets help.
You? Don't get caught riding his crazy train.
You need to protect yourself emotionally, financially and any other way that you might be vulnerable to him while he figures this out.
If you decide to "stand" in your M you will definitely take the road least traveled and the hardest road...
But when you make your way down your own path you will come to your own destination
Not the one dictated by your H's mental health issues.
This is YOUR choice. Not your H. Not anyone else.
I'm sorry you have had this tragedy so early in your M and your life
But
You will find I think that it will change you for the better.
The worse is already here. It is what you decide to do with it that will make all the difference.
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
