Well HWA, you're in fine spirits tonight or is that today Glad things are going great for you at the mo and hopefully your son will want to move in with you
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
6.30 am actually, up and getting ready for work/school. I hope my son will move in with me also, but if he doesn't, I now know not to take it as a personal issue. Another big 180 for me, it has taken time to get to this one, but so nice not to feel a personal attack when things don't go my way.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
An update. Over the weekend the W texted me twice to let me know about the presents she bought the sons for xmas.
Very interesting. You've been NC for months, right? Now she reaches out a bit. Hmmm. How did you respond? I would suggest the "friendly neighbor" approach to your communications with her, the long period of NC might have seemed "cold and distant" so if you go the friendly neighbor route now it'll help remind her of who you really are.
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Also the letter from the solicitor over two weeks ago said the paperwork would be issued within a few days, still waiting.
My W said she was going to bring the D papers over "next week" and that was around 2 months ago. It gets annoying just never knowing what the heck the status is.
I know what you mean AS, my H said he was going to go and see a lawyer in June, but now he can't afford it. He didn't let me know straight away, he let me just think that he was still going ahead with the D. HWA, I've got an apology to make. I forgot to comment on the fact that your W emailed you twice this weekend. That seems quite positive given the fact that you've not heard from her for ages! Maybe it's because you've reconnected with your boys again. Who knows? I certainly don't, lol.
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
[quote=AnotherStanderVery interesting. You've been NC for months, right? Now she reaches out a bit. Hmmm. How did you respond? I would suggest the "friendly neighbor" approach to your communications with her, the long period of NC might have seemed "cold and distant" so if you go the friendly neighbor route now it'll help remind her of who you really are. [/quote]
The text from the W is as followed: "Hi Hotwheelsaust i'm buying son 19 assassins creed 4 black flag 4 xmas xbox game so we dont double up" My reply (used 24 hour rule, not 48hrs): "Thanks W that was nice of you to let me know"
Straight away I got the reply: "No problem i wasn't sure if we had same idea 4 his bday i have a new backpack put away 4 him and i have a boardgame 4 son21" I did not reply to that text.
Couple of things, our oldest son just celebrated his 21st birthday and there was no communication from her about any gifts being bought or help with the party. The son 19 years hasnt played xbox for nearly a year now (or so he tells me)so in my questioning about games he has told me he has no interest in any of the new games. Therefore I would not have even thought about buying an xbox game. Don't even understand the backpack for the oldest son, he drives to work, has a bag for the laptop when going to Uni, and has a small tablet as well. Also this message came 1 week after the 21st party.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
TTD180, I have been connected with the boys over this year, but maybe it was seeing each other at the party that brought it on. Who knows, but I do know the texts were just silly texts, meaningless talk. With regards to paying for the solicitor, she has the money. I allowed her to still claim half the investment tax refund this year, that means she got over $16k back from the taxman. So spending $5k on the "binding financial agreement" is a can do.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
My bad........ I did reply to the W's last text, I mustn't have moved the text down lower to see what I wrote. The reply was "Wife the presents sound great :-)"
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
I think you've done well You've peeked out to see what's occuring. I sometimes end the text to H with a smiley, just to see if I get one back. I never do!
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Well straight from the W's mouth to her mother and best friend. She is in a relationship with the other woman. It is funny how it really isn't giving me any emotions at all at this moment. I suppose, deep down I knew it. I suppose this is one of my biggest things against marriage. At least now I can continue to move on, knowing that what I did, to the best of my ability, was not going to work against a wife who was in a relationship. I can hold my head up high, and will continue to, my marriage broke down because my W had/is in an affair. Yes, we had issues. But my whole sitch was wrong, it didn't make sense, it just wasn't normal WAS stuff. All those people in the beginning I talked to (yes wrong I know) can now realise I was worried for the right reasons. I won't give up on her still. But at least I know the truth.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
sorry to hear about your latest sitch HWA Glad you're taking it ok at the mo, I suppose deep down you knew about it all along and this helped ease the pain a bit. Good for you though not giving up on her, it just could be a faze she's going through. Let's hope so
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Glad things are going great for you at the mo and hopefully your son will want to move in with you 
Glad you're taking it ok at the mo, I suppose deep down you knew about it all along and this helped ease the pain a bit. Good for you though not giving up on her, it just could be a faze she's going through. Let's hope so