In my situation kelela, I looked at it this way. If my W has put up with years of me being depressed, my controlling, my spending money on myself first and not listening to her opinions or wishes. Then why the heck can I not put up with what she is doing for a set time. While I am still moving on and fixing me, the hope is inside of me that says the W will come to her senses one day. Maybe she won't. But I have to be strong enough to allow her time before I give up completely.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
