as far as i know my x didnt cheat until after the BD. i'm mind reading here, but i believe in her mind the marriage ended at BD (or even before) so she didnt really cheat.
people have all sorts of methods to justify their decisions/actions. and for some people its easier to manufacture excuses than to man-up to responsibilities and repercussions.
"In a ham and eggs breakfast, the hen is involved, but the pig is committed".
