Fog City Coaster continues

[2ndtimearoundCA]

Thanks bug and fly. If w asked to be left alone and said she didn't want me in her life any more I would definitely set her free.

Here is my mindset right now...

In the beginning when a WAS pulls away, is cold, mean, says she wants nothing to do with you... Any kind of pursuing will definitely backfire..

Pursuing every day or multiple times a day is always a bad idea

But initiating contact once a week or so I am less certain about. Especially when our last interaction was nothing but positive.

I think that there is a small chance contacting her will make me a little less attractive. Letting her know that I am here and available to her will make me less mysterious (depending on what I say when I reach out). Maybe she needs to think that I am really gone before she reaches out again.

Otoh ... Maybe I have been thru that stage already (she already reached out) and needs me to be there for her a little more. I am still rethinking my sitch in terms of what 25 said.

Mostly I think that reaching out on occasion doesn't help or hurt.. There will be both positives and negatives....