Haven't been real busy with GAL lately, but still hitting the gym consistently, and I did go to a "float fly" (R/C planes equipped for flying off of water) Saturday but ended up not flying because it was so windy. Also went for a nice motorcycle ride. Oh, been playing The Last Of Us, very cool zombie apocolypse video game. D19 was in town and we went to see Ender's Game, we both read the book years ago. It was a great movie if you're a sci-fi fan!
D19 went to the "after party" for the haunt she was working at. She got a really cool plaque for being the "haunter of the year" on the trail venue
I met a 26-year-old and we got on the subject of WAS's. Her H left her 2 years ago with 2 babies (1 and 2 at the time). He took their only car, threw all her clothes and shoes away and dropped off the face of the earth. She's been living with a friend ever since and working whatever odd jobs she can find to survive. Still can't afford a car. A month ago her ex came crawling out of the gutter and decided he wants to be involved in the kids' lives now. Unbelievable!
Originally Posted By: lovethehub
AS, you are amazing. I wouldn't have known how to answer D10 either because regardless of what is going on, you don't expect that to stop. I am sure you will think of something brilliant for the next time he asks
Thank you for the vote of confidence He hasn't brought it up again, but if he does I'll ask him if she does nice things for him (which of course she does) and then tell him that's her way of showing love, that people show love more through their actions than through what they say.
Originally Posted By: kate's_place
I think your wife is going through an "aha" period.
It does seem like something is going on with her. When she dropped off S10 last night she surprised me by going for a hug, it's been a while since that happened. It was just a hug-your-friend kind of thing, but unusual.
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I think it shows some growth going on and a bit of a temp check from your W.
It could be, although there's been no increase in contact (phone/ texting/ email) or any indication that her lack of interest in me has changed. She's just a little more upbeat and nicer, which could just be because she's done with her treatments. She also mentioned that she's gained a lot of weight, that her feet are hurting. She asked for this foam pad thing I keep in front of the washer/ dryer (she bought it pre-BD), it wasn't a big deal to me so I gave it to her.
Oh, way back early in my sitch I mentioned that my W had an enabler, a woman who was going through D herself (her H was a serial cheater). Due to a death in the family she asked if her S could ride the bus home with mine for a while, I said no problem. The first time she came by to pick him up she was like "woah, you're getting really big!" And I was like "and you're getting really tiny!" LOL! She looks amazing! She wasn't fat or anything before, more like "average". But WOW, she's looking like a model now, very fit. I have to admit the thought did cross my mind that it would be such sweet revenge to date W's #1 enabler, LOL! But no, I'm not going to go there
