Thanks for the support....it was indeed a rough night. My hands were shaking as I took pictures and scanned documents for hours. I agree, my role in the relationship certainly had a part but you know what, I did make big changes. I took a new career path which was a huge difference in the time I had to give to my family and I of course realized that by me not being around much and just being a provider my W may have had a disconnect emotionally. I also recognize that although that sounds like reality...it certainly didn't appear that way to me...there was always love between us, hugs, kisses, snuggles, sex, etc....right up to when she fell in love with her girl.
This is her choice, she didn't break it off when I found out about it in March 2013 and in fact even though we have moved 700 miles away she is pursuing her girl like an 18 yr old teen.
The evidence that I uncovered is just the facts that she's not about to work on saving a marriage, she doesn't have one ounce of love for me....it's all about her taking what she can from me and starting a new life with her girl...she's playing me like a fool and I'm not going to sit back and let it happen. I will try to be amicable...but I have no idea if that is possible because she is just full of lies. I have more than enough damning evidence to prove to any court an ongoing affair and in NC they don't take that lightly.
I am also considering speaking to a FL lawyer to see if there is something we can draw up where my W doesn't get the farm and just walks away....that's about as amicable as I'm willing to be at this point.
Again, thanks for the support...I really believed that she would never do the things she's doing..but when I look back I can clearly see that I'm not a bad husband or father...I'm just not perfect, and that's ok because I always did my best and when I found out I could improve, I did. No one deserves this from their spouse.
Time to switch gears.
me - 43 her - 34 married - 14 yrs Son 7 Daughter 8 The bomb - June 2013
