Mel and F - Thank you so much for your advice. Just to be clear, I do still want to continue to DB. I am in this journey for the long haul. I will continue DBing because I KNOW that DBing is about changing myself and that it is the only thing that has helped me climb back out of the hole that I sank into after BD.
My H does appear to be delusional. His IC told him straight up that he had lost his mind and that neither myself or another woman would agree to a situation where he continues to be part of our family and a new family in the way that he is picturing. H said that his IC calls him a "boy child." He is living in a fantasy land that I no longer want to be apart of.
I want to be firm, yet kind and understanding. H has always walked all over me, so this will be a big 180 for me.
I would appreciate all the advice I can get!! Thanks
