Go with the first one! – for your own sake and for the chance of R.
He is cake-eating BIG time and you let him. He is having the best from two worlds – why would he want to change that?
Be kind but firm and tell him that it doesn’t work like this. Tell him that you want to work the M but as long as he is having OW you can’t do this. Toughen up but be kind and gentle when you tell him. Tell him you can still have a familydinner once in a while for the sake of the boys, that he is always welcome to call them or have them over but that playing family doesn’t work unless you are a family. Make the arrangement so you do NOT have to see him but that you can choose to see him.
3BM – you properly know the drill from reading other sits – take care of you by letting him taking care of him. Stop the cake-eating!
Prepare for him to get angry but do stand your ground if this happens. Talk to him kindly and soft when you tell him. Stick to few words and argue from your feeling. If he ask why then don’t argue – just say “Because thats what I feel will be best for the boys and me!”
Just my 2c – hopefully the VETs will join in.
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Me:44 W:43 D7, D5 (S11 from other R)
T: 8y - not M ILYB: 8. Mar 2013 W moved: 1. Aug 2013 LRT: 20. Aug 2013 _______________________________ Do or do not – there’s no try.
