Hi 3, yes, I can see how this feels like a big crossroad . . . but it might not be. You should listen to the vets who I am sure will give you great advice, but I'll throw in my two cents anyway.
What do YOU want to do? Are you done? Or do you want to keep DBing? I had a situation that I thought was a big turning point but after talking with my DB coach, I realized it wasn't - it was just another part of the WAS script and a chance for me to keep up my DBing. You have to do what you feel is right. And, don't forget that you don't have to decide right this minute what to do. My theory on DBing is that I'll keep it up unless and until the point where I feel like it's hurting me too much and I don't feel right about it anymore. It's a decision that is different for each person.
I'm sorry you had such a crappy conversation . . . but you are strong and will get through this no matter how things pan out. Hang in there, 3!!!
P.S. No woman with any shred of self esteem is going to date or marry your H when he is at your house 5 times a week, whether you are D or not. Your H is delusional if he thinks that's actually going to happen.
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14
