He's the confused one...

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Just dropping an update, I've been hesitant, because so much happened in a weeks time that I wanted to take some time to absorb what the H3ll was going on.

So last week was a h3lluva week (the shortest version I can possibly muster below):

Monday - I'm at work and OW friend requested me on Facebook. By the time I saw and went to my page, the friend request was rescinded...I wasn't going to accept it anyway, but it was odd. Also starting this day a series of phone calls at my job from a woman who I never heard of, wasn't from a business/company, and wouldn't leave a number to contact her back...this went on for days, and the person kept asking for me by name, but left a different name every time she called. I have a receptionist, so the calls were never put through to me. Thank god, but I have a funny feeling it was OW.

Wednesday - H came to pick up the boys as usual. They were sent out the door without my presence as usual. Oddly, after I heard the door close shut, the door opened and my boys came back into the house stating "Dad wants to talk to you". The conversation was very calm and H was his old self. I got an APOLOGY with tears. Although the apology didn't center anything specific, but rather was as "I'm sorry for everything". H also stated he had to get a second job to pay for his responsibilities with the "house, me, and our children". I was taken back with this as this man hasn't cared about his responsibilities, the house, or even the kids, shortly after he left. I was soooo shocked. The end of the conversation centered around us communicating and keeping the schedule for the kids negotiable so he doesn't lose all the time with his kids, since he is getting a second job. I agreed that I had no problems with this, and honestly, never have.

Thursday - I sent a followup email to H regarding our conversation about the boys schedule and got a reply almost immediately (within 45 minutes). It was very Thank you and nicities. Surprise.

Friday - I had agreed to allow H to have our boys on my night to take them to a game. He picked them up, and was full of more thank yous, have a nice night, he would bring them back the next morning on time, and how much he appreciated everything. At one point in time H called me by his "Pet Name" for me, I was a little set back as he has only used my full first name since getting involved with OW. Weird. It gave me the creeps a little.

Saturday - My girlfriend came over with her kid for lunch and to talk and my S10 came into the room with us. My S10 mentioned that Daddy and OW broke up because of problems but still talk and are friends. Ahhhhhh! Now things started to make sense.

Sunday - My Sis-in-law texted me stating that H confided in their mother and that him and OW were done, that H wasn't moving anymore an hour away and staying in his place that's five minutes away as he renewed his lease again.

So, odd behavior finally made sense by week's end. H has no money, OW and he are done, and I guess H must have reached a rock bottom of sorts, because he now seems to be reconnecting with his family and the children, and seems to want to own up to his "Adult Responsibilities". Also, he wasn't the j@ck@ss he was a few weeks ago and seemed like his old self.

I'm glad he seems to be turning himself around. I hope it last for our children's sake, but I have no expectations. But a comment by my S10 was that he felt like "Dad is trying to win us back, meaning him and his brother." And I do hope that he rebuilds his relationship with his kids. they deserve the great father he was all of their lives with the exception of this past year.