Intro - hoping for support/advice on DBing

[melissag]

Thanks, GM. I agree with you that I don't have to do things I am not comfortable with . . . but for now I am. (If there was an OW in the place then heck no I would not go in there.) The reason I am is because I am pretty much uncomfortable with all of this, but I don't want to act on my emotion and fear, which is what got me here in the first place. I am trying to do the best I can to be happy and self assured, and even though right now some of it is faking, I do want to be the kind of person who doesn't have all these petty and jealous thoughts - so I am acting accordingly. If I am in a position where I really don't feel comfortable with something, I won't do it.

I so agree with you - H is unbelievably self absorbed right now. Before he moved, he was getting slowly but surely less self absorbed, and the night before he moved out we had a great convo where he seemed to be really starting to look inward. But then, he moved out. And now it's all about him again. My DB coach warned me that he would probably be like this for the first 4-6 weeks before the novelty (hopefully) wears off. I sure hope it does wear off!