Intro - hoping for support/advice on DBing

[melissag]

I am 99.9999% certain there is no OW. He has always been a family guy. Gets home from work at 6, doesn't go out very often. Even after BD, he spent almost all of his time outside of work with the family. A few weeks after BD we had a vacation that was already planned - I gave him an out and said I'd go myself (in fact I was at the time hoping he wouldn't go) and he still came. Since BD there has been no change.

Also, I have stopped snooping bc it's just wrong and makes me feel worse, but there has been nothing on text, phone calls, emails, twitter, facebook, linkedin etc. His FB photo is still one of the two of us. Even though he BD'd and moved out, he still has and is planning to do all kinds of stuff together. We take a martial arts class (all of us) twice a week together; we have tickets to sporting events and still all go; he had me over for dinner last night; we all go to S7's basketball games.

I won't say I am 100% sure because we never really can be, but I just don't think there is any way.

Finally, I don't think this was as sudden as I thought it was. We had these issues for a while, and while we both talked about how the other needed to do something (see how poorly we handled this?), neither of us really did. I was complacent, figuring we'd just magically work it out somehow; and he was going the D direction in his head. I had no idea, because, well, I guess either I didn't listen to him or he didn't communicate it as well as he thinks he did. But in any case, this was anything but sudden from his perspective.