Please dont try to figure out why she is acting a certain way. You will hurt yourself. LOL!
Yea, after setting a boundary, the MLCer is often angry and spins for a bit. Not your problem.
She is depressed, J. And she feels as if she is swimming in mud. But, there isnt anything you can do to fix that.
Now, you said you couldnt help it, you had to ask if she was ok. But the truth is, you could help it, right? You are in control of you.
And when you keep asking her that, you will keep pis$ing her off. So, stop that, ok?
The spewing is going to happen. What makes the difference if your reaction to it.
And that should be no reaction. Remember you need to be unaffected by her words or actions. Because trust me on this, no matter what you say, she is going to be angry about it. \
It's the nature of the MLC beast. The sooner you learn that you cant tame it, the better off you'll be. And that means detach, detach, detach.
It is possible to do that with an in home MLCer. You treat her like a neighbor. You wouldnt ask a neighbor all the time is they were ok, right?
She is all over the place because she is in crisis. Best to let her walk her journey, J. Your job is to get out of the way.
