Hi - just visiting, always enjoy reading your threads. I was going to vote the same. However, there's something off about your being nice when it might send someone running. Nice is considering what is appropriate and what another person might welcome. Pushing something that you like onto someone where it isn't appropriate isn't actually nice.
Even though I think you are nice, I don't think that idea REALLY was. Save the flowers and nostalgia for a romantic relationship where it would be welcomed and anticipated...and reciprocated.
Maybe something to think about is how to develop a filtering system so that "nice" isn't something that comes one-sided out of you but is instead reflective of your understanding of the recipient.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
Hi - just visiting, always enjoy reading your threads. I was going to vote the same. However, there's something off about your being nice when it might send someone running. Nice is considering what is appropriate and what another person might welcome. Pushing something that you like onto someone where it isn't appropriate isn't actually nice.
Even though I think you are nice, I don't think that idea REALLY was. Save the flowers and nostalgia for a romantic relationship where it would be welcomed and anticipated...and reciprocated.
Maybe something to think about is how to develop a filtering system so that "nice" isn't something that comes one-sided out of you but is instead reflective of your understanding of the recipient.
Thanks for your post and that is a perspective that I need to give some thought to.
The thought of doing this was not with the intention of getting her back or making her feel uncomfortable. I certainly wasn't going to send her a dozen red roses with a sappy "I love you" message. It was just going to be a simple bouquet of flowers with a note letting her know that I'm glad we met her a year ago, instead of completely going our separate ways after the relationship ended we have settled into a very good friendship and I'm glad she remains a part of my life.
That being said, sometimes the best of intentions can come off looking exactly the opposite and I need to be recognizant of that.
So Marianne texted me about an hour ago asking if I would like to get together tomorrow evening. I said sure. We're going to have dinner and watch the CAPs game afterwards at a local bar. I promise I won't bring her flowers!
So off topic for this thread, but I received some not so good news this weekend regarding my father. He has gone into renal failure and will require permanent dialysis. It appears he has kidney cancer as well. He already had to have one of his kidney's removed about 18 months ago (I think) because it was cancerous, so now it appears the remaining one is going to have the same result. Do to his age and health he is not a candidate for a kidney transplant.
I am sorry to hear your news BA. How old is your dad? If he becomes stable, there still isn't a chance? I suppose I don't like taking no for an answer. Somehow there just has to be some way.
Big hugs, kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Thanks Kat and Wii. My dad is 76 years old. He has emphysema, type 2 diabetes and heart issues. Unfortunately, I don't live near him. I'm in Virginia and my parents live in Florida. At least I have a brother and sister who both live near them.
