Keep your chin up, it'll work itself out I'm also going to add you to my DB FB
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
It is a tough new world for us all. Some doing it very hard, some not so hard. But you know kelela you will make it. It may not seem like it now, but down the track you will know.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
That is true HWA Think how far you've come since you first joined DB
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
I'm not doing good again since I had finely let go I'm so afford; I'm really sad to move on. I don't know if i can do this. I know that I had survived the last 3 monthes already but its when I was holding on to hope. I don't know where to go from here.
M:42 H:37 M:14yrs S:13; S:9 Found out PA:8/2012 2nd PA & still w/OW:4/2013 H asked for D:6/2013 H moved out: 8/2013 H & OW moved in together: 8/2013
Moving on doesn't mean you have to give up hope. Keep the hope in your heart as long as you care to. Not sure when BD was for you, but even going back to the first PA around 15 months ago that's not that long ago. But, you do need to move on. You need to find your independence and learn to support yourself outside of H. It's hard work but it's liberating when you get to the point where you realize you can do it. And you CAN do it!
I agree with AS You can keep a bit of hope hidden, just think of it as a faze he's going through Don't let the nastiness in this sitch get to you, you need to be strong I know you'll feel that your world is falling apart at the mo, but you will get through this Are you seeing an IC or any other professional? If not, maybe you should go to the docs and find out about any help she can offer you. Just my 2 cents worth
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
In my situation kelela, I looked at it this way. If my W has put up with years of me being depressed, my controlling, my spending money on myself first and not listening to her opinions or wishes. Then why the heck can I not put up with what she is doing for a set time. While I am still moving on and fixing me, the hope is inside of me that says the W will come to her senses one day. Maybe she won't. But I have to be strong enough to allow her time before I give up completely.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
I'm also going to add you to my DB FB