Where am I at?

[hotwheelsaust]

I can see where in the past I have failed to meet her needs. I quit trying.

Same here Icecoldw. I loved to pinch my W's bottom when walking around or at the shops, nothing big, just a small I care. She constantly told me to stop it, didn't like it when in public. So I stopped it, probably not just in the public. I gave up initiating sex, I enjoyed it, but got so sick of the not in the mood, tired, sick, the kids will wake up, etc...etc. that I gave up trying.
And I suppose this is our problem, we shouldn't have given up, but tried a different approach, or better still talk to the W about it.
You last comment is right on, it is a gift we have been given. I don't like how it has been given, but boy, what a great gift to be a better person.