Intro - hoping for support/advice on DBing

[bustingout]

I went through most of your thread and you are doing incredibly well being relatively 'new' to this. I think getting a DB coach is one of the best things we can do for ourselves. My coach also said small tests are ok and can be helpful as we navigate our way through this. In my earlier days I was too focused on H and the testing though. And I was very consumed with how he was seeing me. I took me awhile to realise he simply was not seeng me and this journey had to become my own. To become the woman and mother and best partner I could and wanted to be. It takes time. And more time. And more time after that. And I don't mean to get to a point of reconciliation because we don't know if that is going to happen, even though it is our goal. But it's a long term goal. The focus now is you. Is us. This is our time to shine. And the consistent work on ourselves and the life we want to create irregardless of who wants to be a part of it becomes our light. Our daily goal.

Keep going - you can do this. There will be highs and lows but keep the motion forward moving. Accept that it's hard and don't let it frighten you. Acceptance is the begginning of freedom.