Intro - hoping for support/advice on DBing

[melissag]

I have always thought things will work out with my spouse and I think yours has a good chance, seeing where your H is and the script he is using. The thing is, expectations will drive you crazy, these are the first thing you let go. I just tell myself that I have a plan and will end up in the exact same place whether or not H is with me. So far, so good

Thanks, KP, for your insight. You are right that expectations drive me crazy. Wow, do they ever. I am working on dropping them. I think I am just still in a very desperate place right now. I have been 180ing, DBing, GALing, and all that, and it definitely helps, but this is still pretty new for me, and I still have all those crazy roller coaster emotions. I am hoping that time will help, as well as constant reminders.