I am sure it is hard on both of you. I know being a single mom is and I have also lived in someone else's home and it is hard to relax and have any true space of your own. I think the best thing you can do in this situation is tell H that you realize how the situation is difficult for both of you and make a deal - he takes the kids on Thursday night and on Saturday evening, you will take them to xx and he can have the house to himself for a while. Let him see that you understand his perspective and situation, and that you care about what he said and want to meet his needs - and that you need your needs met too!
I agree and I do see his point of view. I don't think he has it the greatest either. I think he feels like he is imposing by staying over at his brother's place. He is trying not to spend a lot of money over there, he ends up eating bologna sandwiches every day and sleeps on the couch every night. I will have to figure out a way to give him some time at the house. Perhaps I can head to the library or children's museum with the kids once a week and he can have some time at the house. Figuring out something concrete like that makes it a lot easier.
M: 8 yrs T:14 Twins:7 S:5 BD:'NLILWY': Feb/2013 Mar/Apr/May: MC June: "living in limbo" Sept 12: H moves out Oct 20: reconciling Jan-Feb 2014:MC Feb 2014: separating, and H moved out.
