Divorce Busting Techniques

[melissag]

GAL I am joining a winter running group and taking yoga clases and starting a difficult sewing project.. and training this dog..
Still gives me way too much time to think

thanks for the positive comments. I was reading your thread. it is really difficult to know , especially when they don't seem to know what they are feeling.
True about the space and visiting. I will leave it alone. I guess I want to show him it will be OK... but that is my need not his..grrrr

That is awesome - I have also started running, and it certainly is therapeutic, isn't it? I know how you feel - pretty much every minute I am not distracted (and a lot of the minutes I am distracted), I am thinking about this awful situation. I think you just need to make a list of thoughts you can use to replace the negative ones. As soon as you notice a negative thought enter your mind, replace it with a positive one. Think about the positives - what did you do that was fun; any progress you have made with dog training; that the sun is shining; that you are changing for the better; that H was kind or happy about something, or noticed your 180ing (whatever you can find to be positive about there!). I think I literally need to make a list to refer to, because it is easy to get mired in the negative thoughts and sometimes hard to think of the good ones to push out the bad ones. Also remember that the negative thoughts DO YOU NO GOOD. In fact, they do you harm.

I am not saying this is even remotely easy. But as with everything that is difficult to learn, you can do it, but you need to practice, practice, practice. You will see reading my thread that I am a novice at this . . . I am trying! We can do this together, Lou! Are you in??