I know it not always the healthiest way, but pick a few threads to read thru beginning to end. They don't have to be exact matches to your situation. It will be amazing to you how they all still seem to feel like they're following the same script thou.
Look at the interactions, lack there of, or over abundance of some on how they helped a situation along, one way or the other.
You'll quickly understand that A. nothing happens over night or in a quick time frame B. Some of the earliest interactions have helped the rest of the situation get where its at. Some good some bad. But its still months or even years and the situation is rarely resolved either way yet.
So, slowwwwwww down, cause you cant fix a situation right now or in the near near future, but you can certainly do permanent damage.
You know what, its ok not to have all the answers right now, its ok to take it as it comes. Sometimes that's the best 180 we can do for ourselves, just let go of ourselves. We tend to discover more about ourselves when the chips are against us, not when everything is rosy and perfect.
