I think each of us have to find a delicate balance between giving space and still speaking the " love language" of our spouse.
Sorry, Lou, for hijacking your thread, but this may be helpful for you as well. Mimi, this is kind of where I am right now - H has moved out saying he needs space to (a) figure out who he is/wants to be and (b) figure out if we can fix things. When he was here, I was able to 180 and speak his LL (physical touch - I did not initiate, but I sure reciprocated!), and things were going really well. Now that he is not here, it seems that the 37 rules view this as pursuing, which I am not supposed to be doing.
When the chief complaint of the WAS is that he/she did not feel loved enough (my H even said that he thought that I would be happier without him and wanted him to go away - ouch), how does it make him want to come back if you are ignoring him? How do you draw that line between not pursuing and appearing cold and unaffectionate?
Just curious what has and hasn't worked for you.
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14
