Intro - hoping for support/advice on DBing

[melissag]

GM, thanks for the clarification. I actually didn't have any expectations about connecting with H, as I knew my SIL would be there. So there was no surprise there. I was merely complaining that the opportunity wasn't there - not saying I was disappointed when it wasn't. I do think that without SIL there, there would have been an opportunity for something more with H - I am just saying that based on our interactions of the past few weeks, which have all been very positive. He has initiated R talk and/or intimacy many times, and given me reasons to be hopeful that we are going to work this out. Is that an expectation I need to erase from my mind? I'm not sure how to do that! I know, keep the hope but lose the expectations - not sure how to separate the two. It's kind of like not believing anything they say and only half of what they do . . . what am I supposed to do with that?

I can tell by what I am writing now that I am still focusing far too much on H and not enough on myself. Ugh . . . it's such a process. And a hard one at that.