Hi Loualea, sorry you had a rough weekend. It sounds like you did well, following the 37 rules, 180ing and being positive. (And trust me, I know how hard that can be, so good for you!!) If I were you, I'd be glad that there was no conversation about the R, as right now it sounds like he is not feeling too positive about it. If he didn't mention moving out, I'd say no news is good news.

So now he has a week or more to digest the way you behaved this weekend . . . and next time you see him, you will continue with the 180ing. What can you do next time he is there that is different? You want to surprise him so that his view of you is challenged. Is there a 180 you can do with your appearance, the house, or how you behave? What about when he walks in the door? What is he expecting you to do/look like/say? Do something different.

In the meantime, you have some time to GAL. What do you have planned in this regard? I can't tell you how much GALing helps with PMA. I'll be honest, for now, the PMA doesn't last that long after I do a GAL activity, but even a few hours of it helps. It takes some practice, I think, to really get into the swing of it. I know you probably don't feel like going out and doing fun things, but just do it anyway.

Oh - one other thing - don't suggest that you visit him yet. He hasn't indicated that anything is different or that he wants to see you, so that is just pressure to him, and shows that you are not accepting that he wants his space. Remember to act as if you accept that he wants space/time away from you!

OK, you've cried and screamed and whined on this board, so now what are you going to do today? smile

me: 44 XH: 42
M 11 years
D10 and S8
Bomb drop 9/27/13
D final 7/1/14