W is away for two weeks tying up loose ends at our previous residence. since we are still under the same roof, I am using it as an opportunity to give her space and time and I have had minimal contact with her.
She mentioned to me that she took three days to visit some art museums in another country since she got a great deal on airfare. We were living in Europe, so the airfare was indeed cheap.
But this trip is part of what I am calling, "W's 2013 Escape Tour." All told, she has been on 3-4 day trips, either with girlfriends or herself, to Paris, London, Basel, and a regional city as well. She took D5 to Disney for 5 nights, took them to visit her parents twice this year (4-5 nights each), and went on a long weekend to Seattle for a wedding.
If you count this trip to go and wrap everything up at our previous home, and a weekend trip to her BFF here, that makes 10 trips! Besides depleting our vacation fund (and beyond), it is just strange because off the frequency.
Based on the variety of locations, the fact that sometimes our kids or her girlfriends were with her, and that I was almost always the one dropping her off or picking her up from the airport, I have a hard time believing an A is behind this. She has flat out told me and our MC (we went to two different sessions, once each) that there is no OM but she has told me that she has fantasized about what it would have been like to marry different old flames instead of me.
My IC tells me that it might not be an A with an actual person, but at the very least it is an A with art or travel or finding herself. In other words, an A with the idea of life without me.
Just wanted to journal this since it strikes me as a possible symptom of MLC.
_________________________ Me: 37 W: 37 M: 11 D:5 S:2 IDLYA, W removed rings, BD 07/13 EA/Fantasy (PA?) confirmed 12/13 W moved out 05/14
