LOL. She's telling you she's really done. Nothing to say, nothing to do, it's "always" and "forever" and "the last ten years." Does that seem true to you J? Just asking.
Oh, she may "want" to be "done" so she doesn't have to face it any longer. But I doubt she is anywhere close to really done with the feelings etc. She may leave, run away, and tell you how happy she is and how she's done. How she's moved on.
In the end, it will be you that has to leave, J. Not the house, but her. If you ask me, she is dealing with your positive changes and distancing/detaching you are doing. This is new to her. Checking on your phone was the indication I saw that she wants to figure out why her favorite punch toy is no longer available for her berating and punching.
In other words, you are moving away from her and she is dealing with that (loss of control?)
As for the finances, don't wait to sort that out. In her state of mind, she'll smile to your face and take all the money or run up the debt thinking you deserve it. You don't and you don't want things to interfere with you taking care of the kids. Part of the distancing is to unwind the financials in a firm yet kind way as well.
To me, this is the time to be most on your guard and to keep your boundaries firm. Be careful what you talk to your friends about on your phone or via email/fb etc. She'll be watching. Looking for something to say, "See! It's his fault"
Stay the course and keep focusing on you. And try not to set a boundary you aren't willing to die for. You are doing great at giving her space and time and letting her make her own decisions. You can't really do any more than that nor should you in my opinion.
Peace, AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
