I hate it when they try to apply pressure. That's a tough one.

You've not had the advice centre appointment yet, right? Could you tell him you're going to be talking to someone this week to discuss your options and that you'd prefer to wait until after that meeting before talking to your mum, or to him. You don't need to go into detail about the who or when, just that you're not making any decisions or talking to anyone else until after that meeting.

Maybe post your response to him on here as well before sending it. We can offer our opinion on it then.

Stay strong. You can do this!


Both 50
S14
M 16 yrs (his 3rd; my 1st)

ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012
H moved out - 27 Jun 2013
Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013
Closing the door and changing the locks