Met with the W for a little over 20 minutes. I asked her what kind of coffee she thought I would enjoy, and then took her recommendation. It was great.

I kept it pretty business like, handed over her mail, and the statement of our closed out joint savings account. She gave me the book I requested.

We talked awhile about her work, she said she still loves her job. I asked what kind of car she planned to buy after we traded cars back next week. She mentioned something about not getting one because she probably wouldn't be able to afford it. I didn't address anything relating to money.

I told her we would need to put the house on the market and asked for her input on that. I mentioned we would need to make arrangements for the dog for showing the house, and she mentioned taking our dog for awhile. But that she didn't do the back and forth trading off thus far because it would have killed her. I didn't address that either, just let it hang.

Eventually, I kind of just abruptly said, well, I gotta get going and started getting ready to leave which seemed to catch her off guard.

We walked to the cars and I apologized (Don't 2X4 me!) as part of my repentance and spiritual cleansing for going against God's way when we were engaged. We lived together and had premarital sex and my pastor advised me to repent and ask her for forgiveness as well for pressuring her to move in and to have premarital sex. This seemed to have a big affect on her, but of course I don't know for sure. I asked her to please find it in her heart to forgive me for that. She thanked me for what I said. She seemed to get a little teary eyed.

It seemed like she was going to try and hug me, but I just said to let me know how she would like to proceed next and I headed toward my car. She told me to drive safely.

Overall, I detached, didn't get emotional, I looked good, I had self-confidence, I didn't cry. I left before things got weird or talks turned south. We joked and laughed and I think overall it was a positive interaction.


H: 29
WAXW: 30

Bomb Drop- 9/9/13
Negotiated Settlement- 5/9/14
D Final- 5/21/14
XW has breakdown in attorney lobby- 5/30/14