15th Thread to Somewhere Uncertainly

[TSquared2]

Thank you UR!

Once I grokked this part below sometime in 2012, everything changed, and the "flow" started in earnest:

Here's something that occurred to me a long time ago...

It's always been that way. In reality, it's never been any different.

It'll always be that way too, whether with H, new man, with your kids, friends.

We just had the illusion that it was different, that we were safe. That risk was off.

[reachingHigher]

T^2, I read your post again and again this morning slowly. Yesterday when I saw it I didn't understand. I do somewhat more now. It's some real and naked bare truths and thoughts and questions.

You are doing so great! I think reconnection will be/is going better for you than it did for me b/c you have been able to be successful detaching much more than I did.

Too much stuff to quote from your post...I loved it all.

uRw your thoughts as always are thought-provoking. It's like you should write a little book of truisms and sell it!

[Pudmuddle]

Last night I allowed my detachment to go right into my pants, passing "GO" and collecting $200 on the way there....she was so close to being herself, happy, she looked so good to me. Eh, Yoda says always in motion in the force, so since detachment is part of the "all", then it must flow, never steady state. That's just reality...though I gave myself a good talking to, f-bombs and all.

Haha ha! It is the reality but that was funny! I couldn't stop chuckling about detachment going into your pants, lol.

You gave some very keen insight into how we all think and perhaps how we should be thinking. I like new ways of thinking! That was awesome. I'm going to copy it and reread.

uR....don't you think if people keep telling you to write a small book of your amazing wisdoms, maybe the universe is telling you something?

[LoisB]

T2,

Do you have any idea how many women on this board would give their eye teeth to have the love and adoration you give to your W?

Next time you have a down moment, just remember the 20 or so women on the boards who love and adore who you are as an H. We haven't even seen you and I know, I for one, am soooo crushing on you!!!! You are the man.

Heather

[BrightFuture]

T2, just stopping by to say hi. Some interesting thoughts in your last post.

[ForeverYoung]

T^2, I read your post again and again this morning slowly. Yesterday when I saw it I didn't understand. I do somewhat more now. It's some real and naked bare truths and thoughts and questions.

Guess I should go back and reread it slowly too.

T2,

Do you have any idea how many women on this board would give their eye teeth to have the love and adoration you give to your W?

Next time you have a down moment, just remember the 20 or so women on the boards who love and adore who you are as an H. We haven't even seen you and I know, I for one, am soooo crushing on you!!!! You are the man.

Heather

I think some of us guys are starting to crush on you too, dude. (not that there's anything wrong with that!)

Good job sir, you certainly lead by example.

[Wonka]

I think some of us guys are starting to crush on you too, dude. (not that there's anything wrong with that!)

Folks...here's a big news flash for you!!

There's a bromance brewin' over thar between our beloved T and FY! Let's give them a wide berth to sniff out each other's butts and mark their own territory!

[RosaLinda]

Wonka !! you are too funny! You too FY, Seinfeld?

Thanks for sharing your insights T2. Your friend asked some interesting questions regarding trust. I've heard LBSs, reeling from the pain of betrayal, swear they will never trust their spouse again. Or themselves, for putting their loving trust in someone who ultimately proved to be so untrustworthy.

But just like your friend showed you that you do trust yourself, your intuition and emotional attachment, with your kids, friends, self, just like you trust yourself, you trust your W in many ways too. With your kids, to handle money, drive the car, to go to work. Cook maybe. Maybe not in your case I think a lot of areas of trust remain if we take a minute to think about them, and that others will return.

Especially if the only questions you have truly are:
-Can I forgive, fully, honestly and completely?
-Can I leave the past where it belongs, in the past?

You know the answer to your questions is an unconditional yes. My answer is yes too. No wonder we all have crushes you're a great role model T2, even for us gals.

My goal/prayer is that I will deal with honour, act with courage, and achieve humility. And as always, may I do unto others.... Someday. I hope.

[uRworthy]

T2, you know how I feel about you. But now I see there's a line I need to get on. LOL!

There is something special about being someone who can forgive and who does not judge. Who is willing to love fully and completely.

I am honored to know you, my friend.

And thank you RH. Our Rosa is trying to get me to write a book. LOL!

[uRworthy]

T2, you know how I feel about you. But now I see there's a line I need to get on. LOL!

There is something special about being someone who can forgive and who does not judge. Who is willing to love fully and completely.

I am honored to know you, my friend.

And thank you RH. Our Rosa is trying to get me to write a book. LOL! It is way beyond my capabilities but I am so flattered.