Hi again Iva I've just come across your new thread by accident, but I've found it now There's some good positives in your list Here's another one - 8. I can do what I want, when I want - That just sums up nearly all your 7 points Have you read any more self help books? I think they are good for keeping your mind active and getting you through the tough times Well done on saying what you said to H's niece It's true what you say, he can only help himself. If it is true and he is addicted to drugs or alcohol again then I doubt that OW will stay around for much longer. The OW wants everything to be right in the new relationship and she'll soon realise that the grass is not greener than she first thought If your H was to come back tomorrow, would you have him back if you knew he was on the drugs or drink again? My H is in serious debt at the mo and he won't help himself. I don't want him back until he sorts out his debt problems again and gets a proper job.
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
