I've mentioned it before in your previous thread, but never got a direct response... other than outer changes like your hair... what other changes have you been focused on making for your self?

Also other than going out with MIL, have you been able to GAL or hang out with friends to keep your mind off your sitch?

You've mentioned several times that you are finally giving up hope for your marriage, but haven't really seemed to "let go" (you can let go with out giving up hope).
I know you have your boys and you are busy with work, but I feel like if you were more focused on whatever 180s changes you have this same conclusion?

I don't think I have seen much in your threads about your changes or what you are doing for you. Luckily you do have the support of your MIL and you have your H to care for the boys while you do things for yourself. I know things are tough, I don't have kids, but I barely make enough money to pay my rent so I can relate to money being tight!

Sorry if I am off base with my post.
I hope you begin to feel in better spirits. Have a good weekend.


me: 30 H:30
tgthr:7 m:4
no kids
5 counseling sessions initiated by H as a LR: Oct 2012
long distance marriage b/c of work since Nov 2012
official BD: July 2013
nothing filed
1/1/14 I dropped the rope