TTD180, thanks for that. In my opinion (and yes I have been wrong many times) I feel that I am leaving it to the W's and her choice. I still do want it to work, but really don't know what else I can do. I am trying to simply write a letter more from a "N.U.T.S" perspective of being a man, straight to the point. In other words: this is why I did this, this is what I am doing, this is how it can go.
I don't think it is the best way or the only way. But I need to do something for me. I have tried coaches options over the course of the sitch - nothing changed. I have tried to improve me GAL and leave her alone - nothing changed.

In one way I want my opinion given to her, she can decide what to do. The other way I know I should probably just give up on the letter, say nothing and continue with the move.

This is why I am giving myself plenty of time to think about this and listening wisely to many people on the forum.

ME:51 W:46
M:25
S:22, S:20
Divorced 16/9/15
BD 10/12
W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12.
Dark since 6/13
I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.