I agree with that MH That's normally how I work, by just taking one day at a time. Well I try, but sometimes I do let sitches take over. Sorry to hear about your latest troubles K, we're here for you It'll be great if you can join us over at FB DB
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
I'm not doing so good once again. I'm finally going to try to get federal help. Also I'm now going to finally move on with my life I'm going to stop holding on to hope on saving my marriage. All im getting out of this is more emotional hurt. I'm in a loosing Battle. I know I should have check out along time ago but I just kept holding on that hope. I'm really scared to move on with my life. I want to thank my friends on DB for bring there for me. I know need to live up to my topic title listed at top of my page
M:42 H:37 M:14yrs S:13; S:9 Found out PA:8/2012 2nd PA & still w/OW:4/2013 H asked for D:6/2013 H moved out: 8/2013 H & OW moved in together: 8/2013
I hope you're not going to give up on us even though you think your marriage is dead. Even when you feel rock bottom, you know the only way is up from here I've felt like giving up hope loads of times, I feel like that at the moment. I would get federal help though, you'll find it helps and wish that you'd been on it earlier. That's what I felt when I finally got help. Don't be scared, remember everything you've read in DB and DR. Find another self help book to read. I've got one that I picked up today called you can heal your life by Louise Hay. I'm going to start reading it tonight Kepp up with the PMA, remember your boys need you to be strong for them They are your life now
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
I've mentioned it before in your previous thread, but never got a direct response... other than outer changes like your hair... what other changes have you been focused on making for your self?
Also other than going out with MIL, have you been able to GAL or hang out with friends to keep your mind off your sitch?
You've mentioned several times that you are finally giving up hope for your marriage, but haven't really seemed to "let go" (you can let go with out giving up hope). I know you have your boys and you are busy with work, but I feel like if you were more focused on whatever 180s changes you have this same conclusion?
I don't think I have seen much in your threads about your changes or what you are doing for you. Luckily you do have the support of your MIL and you have your H to care for the boys while you do things for yourself. I know things are tough, I don't have kids, but I barely make enough money to pay my rent so I can relate to money being tight!
Sorry if I am off base with my post. I hope you begin to feel in better spirits. Have a good weekend.
me: 30 H:30 tgthr:7 m:4 no kids 5 counseling sessions initiated by H as a LR: Oct 2012 long distance marriage b/c of work since Nov 2012 official BD: July 2013 nothing filed 1/1/14 I dropped the rope
Reminds me of the saying "all work and no play makes Jack a dull boy". Hope you're getting plenty of playing time
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
To 180 no I'm not going to give up on my friends on DB you all are the only true friends that I can come too that really knows what I'm going through. I hope that I will be able to get help through the government here in the state I live in. Everything was under H's name so I really don't have any credit established in my name. That was the biggest mistake I did I should have had something under my name. I'll keep reading both books and I will need to visit The book store again to find more reading materials. Thank you for always being there for me.
M:42 H:37 M:14yrs S:13; S:9 Found out PA:8/2012 2nd PA & still w/OW:4/2013 H asked for D:6/2013 H moved out: 8/2013 H & OW moved in together: 8/2013
Im in the process of still working on The outer part of my life, Im still trying to work on The inside of me I was starting to feel so much better on The inside all the way up to when OW and H's latest threat. And besides hanging out with MIL I had gone out to lunch with couple of co workers. Still trying to set up a girls night with some other friends but everyones schedule is not working out to here we can get together. I know I had mentioned several times that giving up on M but I always go right back to holding on to that hope. But with this late's situation it really got to me real bad. I just need to just finally let go and move on and I really need to do it now and stop thinking he will be coming home at all.
M:42 H:37 M:14yrs S:13; S:9 Found out PA:8/2012 2nd PA & still w/OW:4/2013 H asked for D:6/2013 H moved out: 8/2013 H & OW moved in together: 8/2013
Thank you NQ the next time I'm at MIL house I'll try to set up a new FB account on her computer some how the phone won't let me sign up a new account ill have to play around on my phone to see how to set up a new account
M:42 H:37 M:14yrs S:13; S:9 Found out PA:8/2012 2nd PA & still w/OW:4/2013 H asked for D:6/2013 H moved out: 8/2013 H & OW moved in together: 8/2013
NQ if I did it right on my phone my FB account is kelela Db and if the picture went through its a picture of diamond head on the island if ohau my home town
M:42 H:37 M:14yrs S:13; S:9 Found out PA:8/2012 2nd PA & still w/OW:4/2013 H asked for D:6/2013 H moved out: 8/2013 H & OW moved in together: 8/2013
That's normally how I work, by just taking one day at a time. Well I try, but sometimes I do let sitches take over. Sorry to hear about your latest troubles K, we're here for you