Thanks all, I have taken all your responses to heart. I am still undecided what to do about the letter.
Firstly, as I mentioned, I won't be sending it for another 4 to 5 weeks.
Secondly, the internet or email being stopped is because I am moving 1000klms away. New internet company, new email who knows.
Lastly, the email is a combination of closure and temp check. The 6 months time limit is more to do with this point in time now that I am leaving, rather than I have given you this amount of time.
My main point is I am leaving this town in less than 5 weeks, I will not be contacting her for any reason (unless dire reasons with the boys) unless she initiates. I will not be contacting her family at all. I am moving on with my life.
I am trying to open the cage door, but wording it based on comments and views she made. So that she can understand it from a history point.
I do really appreciate everyone's comments and replies, I simply need to think on this more.


ME:51 W:46
M:25
S:22, S:20
Divorced 16/9/15
BD 10/12
W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12.
Dark since 6/13
I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.