Well another anniversary has come and gone while our marriage remains on the rocks. This year it passed with neither one of us acknowledging the date. Honestly, it was a much nicer way to get through the day compared to last year when we tried to celebrate but ended up separated.
Also, the ball of things getting closer to normal is starting to roll. My H came over twice in the past few days specifically to spend time with me (coming over after our S was already in bed), and stayed over. He still stays on the couch but he initiated a little bit of cuddling so its nice to finally have some contact.
I'm not looking too far into these new developments though because his mom is due to be in town next week. In the past he has always played nice while she's here only to distance again when she leaves. So we'll see what happens.
BD: Aug 2012 Separated since May 2013 S born Aug 2013 Aug 2013 H agrees to consider 'baby steps toward working things out' H is/was actively seeing someone?
That's not all bad but if you have a past barometer to gauge things then that is probably the best approach on how to proceed with regards to the Mother-in-Law visiting.
If it's better after she leaves then maybe that is a solid sign of progress. At least it's happening at a good time with the holidays quickly approaching. I think it's probably best not acknowledging your anniversary.
I tried that approach with ours back in May, only to find out that she was upset that I did not get her anything after she told me there was nothing to celebrate. I got her a gift and a card that evening and left it at her door at the suggestion of a friend and she later threw that back in my face saying that I was not sincere about it. Can't win for trying sometimes.
Me: 42 WAW: 37 Kids: 0 Separated: 06APR13 M:7 Years, T:10 years WAW states she wants to "move on": 01JUL13 "Courage is the standing army of the soul which keeps it from conquest, pillage, & slavery."
