DARK - how do you do it right? I need help BADLY

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I thought of selling our new home - as I mentioned we moved to FL under my W's direction - it took almost 3 years to get the position and during that time, expecially the last year we did tons of planning with family that lives here, we had grand plans layed out.
I've looked into what opportunities are avaialble back in NC, although I can't act on any of them due to contract obligations in my new position..but I could in the near future.
I did mention this to my W some time ago, but she stated that it wouldn't be to save the M, it would be for me to be closer to the kids (because she wants to move back there). SO, I find it difficult to sacrifice a 23 yr career, sell a home and leave somewhere where the kids have wonderful opportunites / activities, etc and I have a job with time off for something I can't (in her eyes) have..a marriage with her.
If we didn't have these concerns I would do it...I would even switch career paths if necessary but that isn't what we're talking about. We made this move not only for me, but for my W and for my family - she changed her mind because of her EA/PA and friends back in NC (we lived there 6 yrs on place and 5 yrs another - in total we have moved 4 times, twice with kids). Her at home business was something that she said was always portable, which is why she never rented a store front - so she could easily pick up and move. Her business was very good, mainly the last 3 years.

I have gone out of my way since moving to advertise for her business (she has done minimal) - placed ad's, dropped business cards, looked into lease space, talked her up at every opportunity. She doesn't seem to care because she doesn't want to be "here" if "here" means with me or FL is anyone's guess at this point. Prior to that (when in NC) she consistently researched the Tampa area market for her business to see how she would re-start it...she was excited to build a much larger client base.

As for me, I've been getting back to the hobbies I enjoy - cycling, working out, traveling, going to the beach, bought annual disney passes, got into BMX and RC racing with my son, I'm making 90% of my kids gymnastics practices (before this job is was barely 5%) I'm eating healthy, dressing well, enjoying my job (when this stuff isn't on my mind). Doing tons with my kids at home (because I'm around) I'm planning a trip either just myself or taking my kids to Key Largo this month...which also happens to be during my 14th wedding anniversary.
I've been reading..not just internet..but buying books, kindle, etc. I've made new friends, some of whom are woman and I've found them to be great to talk too.
I've tried (but haven't done as good as I can) to re-kindle some family relationships (we all live in different states / countries).
I've been thinking hard about how I got here and why I wasn't smarter to know better...I'm not the same person I was 8 months ago, I don't think I have the capacity to be that person any longer.