So I learned from my H niece that H and OW are in ID - he is introducing her to his family. Trying to not to read into it and resist any urges to contact H. Niece said that she was worried that H didn't look good was very stressed and she was worried that he was becoming addicted to alcohol or drugs again. I told her to love him from a distance and that if he wanted help it would have to come from him.
Ok so I have decided to find silver linings in the bad here are just a few. 1. My time is my own, no more waiting and being disappointed wanting him to join our relationship. 2. I can listen to any music I want w/o H telling me how bad it is. 3. I haven't had fast food in weeks and have really enjoyed cooking in my new kitchen. 4. Joined several meet-up groups and they have been good for business and for my self esteem. 5. I can create the life I want w/o H constant criticism 6. No matter how much hate, blame and anger from H I am in charge of my emotions. 7. Realizing that life w/o H is possible and I can do it on my own.
