DARK - how do you do it right? I need help BADLY

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That's an awesome reply, but as I read it I also feel sad because you're right - everyone has a right to do what makes them happy and one would hope that people would stand by their marriage vows (unless abuse, etc) because it would seem that outside of those issues other concerns can be made well. I find it hard to be a quitter or see someone I love quit, right or wrong and I know I will have a difficult time truly letting go of the fact that she CAN and WILL do as she pleases and I have no control over it...and if I do TRY to control it, I'll just make it worse.

I'm going to let your reply sink in and try to absorb it...so far today I've only spoken to my kids in the morning and a single text in the afternoon asking how everyone was. I'm really struggling not being involved in my W's life, especially now that I finally have time away from work to be around.....this move to FL was supposed to be a new beginning for our family and it's turned into a disaster that is tearing me up. In some way I do believe that my W has compassion for the way she knows I feel and I certainly feel the pain that my W has because it's broken my heart....now if I can only show her true respect and happiness knowing what I know she wants, that will be a turning point for me.
My kids - I hate for them to be in this mess, very undeserving for them, it makes me phyically and emotionally sick - my W proclaims they'll be just fine as long as "She's happy". Makes a guy feel great, huh?