Job, the boys are doing great. They have been sheltered for most of this, I am so very grateful. But they are aware of things too.

I asked H - do you want them to grow up and think that THIS is what marriage is? Because that thought mortifies me. He agreed, and said he didn't want them to think this is what M is, that he wants to set a better example, that he would do anything for them.

We talked a bit about OW.

Now I know that typically, this should be a no no to discuss. But because she is someone I was once good friends with, I feel that adds a twist to my sitch, changes things a bit from most MLC A's.

He insists they are friends. That she helped him through a tough time when he didn't feel like he was able to talk to me.

So I say - I'm sure she did help you. Think she was a good friend to me?

Insert the sound of crickets chirping here - lol!

He gave me a lot of bs, said that he's not sure what our friendship was like, that things were convoluted. He didn't jump to her defense though.

I say - do you think she backstabbed me?

Him - yes, but you backstabbed me.(this is him referencing that I talked about him to her when we were friends)

Me - we aren't talking about me, we're talking about her. She hasn't been loyal to her H or me, so I am missing how she is this great friend and loyal person.

More cricket noises.

I then throw out - how would you like it if I had a R with a guy the way you do with her?

Lots of cricket noises here folks.

He thought long and hard before he answered that one. His answer - "probably not".

Damn right.

I say - so, it would be a problem if I had a "friendship" with a man the way you have with her?

Him - probably.

I brought the conversation back to he and I.

Bomb January 2012 - doesn't feel the same about me

~ "There is nothing love cannot face; there is no limit to its faith, hope, and endurance."