Shutting the F*ck Up

[BrightFuture]

Portia, I was going to post on your previous thread, but it got locked. Here is what I wanted to post:
I’ve been trying to analyze some of the things H does, including some texts. I understand that in our situations (long distance and almost no contact) this is the only thing that we have to even remotely imagine what is going on in our SO’s heads. Why do you think that his intention is to have all three of you to be friends? Why complications? I also doubt that GF, if she is still in the picture, would be thrilled about it.

So sorry about your Dad. I hope it will not come to the worst scenario for his leg. I understand how difficult it might be to be patient when you family is going through tough times, while you are dealing with such a pain in your own life. My parents are arriving next week for one month visit. I’m so not looking forward to this. I’m afraid that I’m going to blow up hard at the first word if they start to give me advice or criticize me.

I would feel the same way about the phone call, if I would be in a stress like that. However, I think I’m better prepared now compared to a few months ago, I think I can handle any news. Recently I’ve been trying to use this positive thinking method (from The Secret movie), so when I get a text or a voice mail, I imagine that the message is going to be good. At the same time I’m prepared for the worst. I think your idea of texting him and letting him know that you are busy right now, but you can talk later is a good idea. Give yourself some time and think positive.