I'm so sorry that the stress level was very high in your home...but there comes a time when you have to have a talk w/the in home mlcer and it sounds like your pot finally boiled over.
You've been at this for a long time and having the live in mlcer is difficult and yes, extremely stressful. T, I admire you for dealing w/this as long as you have w/o boiling over.
I do hope and pray that the 2 hour talk cleared the air a bit and you feel better. Please take care of yourself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.